Acceptance: Owning your Past so you can Mold your Future.
Have you ever sat in silence and thought if I could take that one moment back things would be different? Maybe thought to yourself if only I had known better maybe life would be different? Or maybe thought if I could go back in time and change that one thing the outcome would change how I’m living now?
“Acceptance is a road traveled on a long journey to happiness.”
Regrets of the past are like an anchor.
Regrets of the past are like an anchor holding us down and blocking forward movement. When we hold on to the thoughts of guilt, anger, sorrow, and the “what if’s” of the past we’re unknowingly missing out on opportunities to use what we’ve learned to mold a brighter future. I have been guilty of this in many instances in my life and I struggled with letting go of the mistakes I made.
If you are like me, the problem is acceptance. I was and I still am brutal when it comes to judging myself. So, accepting past mistakes and letting go was hard. I kept beating myself up and thinking I could have done better, I should have known better. For me, acceptance was a road traveled on a long journey to happiness.
Do you beat yourself up over past mistakes? Do have a hard time accepting what happened in situations of the past? Well, it’s time to Own your past so that you can be a better you.
It’s time to own your past.
Ok, so you don’t like the things that has happened in your past. You may be ashamed or hurt or even angry about it. But, I want you to ask yourself, “is there anything in your thoughts that’s going to change what happened?” “Is there anything that you can do today that will change things?” Well, I’m sorry but, It’s impossible to turn back the hands of time, it just can’t be done.
So, what can you do here and now that will change the way you’re feeling about the past? Accept that it happened.
It’s time to own your past. First, acknowledge that you did your best at that time in your life. Accept that you did not know then what you know now. Accept that you could only do what you had the knowledge to do at that point in your life. Now, recognize that you’ve learned from it.
Your past will help you to Mold a better future.
Everything that has happened to you in the past has provided knowledge for your future. Your past has equipped you with the tools you need to never make the same mistakes again. The funny thing about life lessons is that if you don’t learn the lesson the first time, it will always present itself again somewhere in life. It may be packaged differently but, it’s the same situation. Only this time, you have the knowledge to handle it.
The wisdom you have gained from past situations is your own personal guide to a better life. Without experiences both good and bad we would never have the opportunity to grow.
The knowledge that you have gained is the clay that you will use to mold the best future possible. So remember, no more regrets only gratitude for learning and coming out on the other side a wiser person.