Self-care: 5 Things you Should say to Yourself Everyday when Looking in the Mirror.

Self-care: 5 Things you Should say to Yourself Everyday when Looking in the Mirror.

Self-care: 5 Things you Should say to Yourself Everyday when Looking in the Mirror. Let’s face it,  sometimes life can be difficult.  The day to day of career,  family,  household,  and task can be more than we can chew.  Sometimes we feel overwhelmed by the pressure of it all. Not to mention,  the outside eyes and opinions that are judging how we perform from one day to the next.  It...

Ask Toni: My Best Friend tried to Date my Ex.

What do I do if my best friend tried to date my ex after I said I wasn’t okay with it?  He broke up with me,  stuff happened,  and I just didn’t want to hear about the things they were doing.

Answer

I’m sorry Dear but,  she is not your friend.  True best Friends don’t do things like that to each other.  She has broken “girl code” rules.

She’s put her own selfish feelings ahead of yours.  Do not continue a relationship with either of them.  Neither one of them respects you or cares about your feelings.  It’s time to make new friends.  The kind of friends who uplift you, cheer for you, and protect you.

Fake friends don’t deserve a place in your life.  Surround yourself with people who love you.

 

Try Reading:  Girlfriend Code101: 5 Rules of Sisterhood

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Run your own Race you’ll reach your Destination much Faster!

Run your own Race you'll reach your Destination much Faster!

Run your own Race Hello Everyone,  I’m back again to share more random thoughts. Thought for today?  Comparisons and competition! How many times have you decided to do something, took the leap,  and actually did it.  Many of us have,  right? You took the time to research,  plan,  execute,  and launch.  Everything is going great,   you’re proud of your work and all that you’ve accomplished and life is so...

Marriage Talk: You’ve got the ring…..but did you have the talk? Things you and your mate should talk about before marriage.

Marriage Talk: You've got the ring.....but did you have the talk? Things you and your mate should talk about before marriage.

Marriage Talk: You’ve got the ring…..but did you have the talk? Things you and your mate should talk about before marriage. Congratulations!  You’re getting married.  This is one of the biggest milestones of your life.  There’s lots of planning to make everything right for the big day and you’re making sure that everything is perfect. You’ve got the ring,  the dress,  and all your bridesmaids in order.  Your dream venue...

Ask Toni: My boyfriend is a narcissist. How can I leave?

My boyfriend is a narcissist. I’m in love with him, but I know it’s ruining my life. How can I help myself get out of this relationship?

Answer:

I want you to sit in silence and ask yourself why are you staying?

Finding the reason to the “why” will help you figure out what’s going on with you.  You are the key to all of this. This is about you not your boyfriend. If you do find the strength to leave or if he leaves you, you will end up in the same kind of relationship over and over again.

You deserve better!  Work on yourself first and learn to love yourself.  Once you do that everything else will make sense.

I hope this helps….

You Deserve Better.

 

Try Reading: Relationships, Guilt, and Starting Over: Do you feel obligated to Stay?

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How to increase Productivity and Rock your day!

How to increase Productivity and Rock your day!

How to increase Productivity and Rock your day! Productivity!  Being productive is something that most of us would love to master.  When we put in the work we expect it to yield high results.  But,  what happens when input does not produce the output we’re looking for? How many times have you felt like a hamster spinning your wheels and going nowhere?  Putting in the work and not seeing results...

Single Women: The Single Life is your Best Life!

 

Happy Monday Sis..

I was getting dressed and I was thinking about what I was going to do today and I decided to make this video about living your life now as a single woman.

In the video I’m sending a message to all single women who are waiting to live life or who are afraid to fly solo.  It’s a topic that we all have dealt with at some point in life.  This message focuses on single women,  but it’s for anybody who is not comfortable being alone.

Please watch the video and comment below to encourage others and/or share your story about being single and living your life.

My mind is my enemy

My mind is my enemy

My mind is my enemy “Don’t do that it may not work”.  “What if it all goes wrong?”  “Don’t trust it,  it’s to good to be true.”  “Something has to be up with this.”  These are the thoughts that my mind creates.  Constantly at odds with my wants and deepest desires.  Consistently causing mischief and doubt,  disguised as self preservation and security. My mind is my enemy.  It is powerful...

How to get over breakups: A short guide to getting over heartache.

How to get over breakups: A short guide to getting over heartache.

How to get over breakups: A short guide to getting over heartache. Breakups are never easy.  No matter what the cause,  it’s always hard getting over someone you love. I have had a few breakups in the past,  some worst than others,  but they’ve all hurt just the same.   I’ve learned valuable lessons from those breakups and I can now say that I am happy for the experience. Past...

Ask Toni: Is My Relationship becoming Toxic?

So my boyfriend made me delete my Snapchat,  Facebook and Instagram accounts,  but he still has his.  I also cut my family and friends off.  Does that mean that the relationship is becoming toxic?

Answer:

It already is toxic.  He is controlling,  that’s strike one.  He’s isolated you from loved ones,  that’s strike two.  The next strike will be physical and verbal abuse.   LEAVE NOW!

And please,  never feel ashamed to reach out to family and friends after being distant.  They love you and want what’s best for you.  Get out of this relationship before it gets worse. You deserve better!

 

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