My Mom is too bossy. I love her very much and she’s been a great Mother to me, but she doesn’t know her place. I am having problems with her interfering in the way that I raise my kids. She is very judgmental and won’t stop telling me what to do when it comes to my kids. How do I tell her to mind her business and still remain respectful?
Answer
The only way you can get your Mom to stop giving you unsolicited advice is to talk to her and let her know how it makes you feel. Let her know that you appreciate her advice, but explain to her that you have the final say when it comes to your kids. You’re still functioning in the Role of Mother and Kid. I hate to say this, but your Mom is still treating you like a kid because you probably aren’t asserting yourself and speaking to her as an adult. Once she see’s you as a grown woman the advice will surely continue, because she is your Mom, but it will be delivered in a different manner.
Your Mom loves you and wants the best for both you and your kids. It’s very understandable that you want to raise your kids without any interference from her. But, I must say you stated that she was a great mother to you, so I think it’s safe for me to assume that she knows what she’s doing. The only reason that your Mom is giving you this advice is because she’s been there and done that. She knows what she’s talking about. Cherish the fact that she’s there to give you insight.